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Making Love The Way We Used To...Or Better

From Making Love the Way We Used toƒOr Better:

"Listen, Do You Want to Know a Secret?"

You love him. You really do. You have history. You know everything about him. He knows everything about you. You love the things he does, how successful he is. He's great with the kids. It's true that you've had some darker moments together. Sometimes in the middle of a fight, you may wonder if you'd be better off alone. But the reality is, you're good together. When you're out with other people, they say they envy the two of you. That's why what's happening between you lately is so scary to think about and seems impossible to share. How come he doesn't turn you on anymore? How come he doesn't seem to want to tear your clothes off the way he used to? How come you're starting to look at other men? What's happening to you? What's happening to him?

You love her. You really do. Your friends say you have it all. She was magnificent when you met her. She was not only sexy but bright and independent. She was so vibrant people turned as soon as she walked into a room. You'd share everything with her and talk for hours. You couldn't wait to be with her. Just thinking about her would turn you on. How come you have so little to say these days? There's so much sameness every time you make love, it seems harder and harder to become turned on. She doesn't seem interested in the same things anymore. She once seemed so independent and now you feel that she depends on you too much. You feel like roommates. You wonder if you can stay for the rest of your life with a woman who feels more like a sister than a lover. You haven't said a word. You don't want to hurt her feelings. You don't want to make things worse. You don't want to feel embarrassed. But sometimes the silence is louder than words.

Suddenly you both have secrets too difficult to share. You may not want to face them. You might believe that if you ignore the problem, it will go away. But these secrets grow too big to go away. Soon the secret becomes ever present and definitely in the way of your sex life. That's exactly what happened to the four people whose stories follow:

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